Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse (2020)

Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse Ruth A. Tucker Black and White Bible Black and Blue Wife My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse Ruth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband a well educated charming preacher no less in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic vio
  • Title: Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse
  • Author: Ruth A. Tucker
  • ISBN: 9780310524984
  • Page: 354
  • Format: Paperback
Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife: My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse Ruth A. Tucker Ruth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband, a well educated, charming preacher no less, in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors.Weaving together her shocking story, stories of other women, and powerful storiesRuth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband, a well educated, charming preacher no less, in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors.Weaving together her shocking story, stories of other women, and powerful stories of husbands who truly have demonstrated Christ s love to their wives, with reflection on biblical, theological, historical, and contemporary issues surrounding domestic violence, she makes a compelling case for mutuality in marriage and helps women and men become aware of potential dangers in a doctrine of male headship.
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  1. Calvinist Batman

    I must start this review saying that I desperately wanted to like this book and as rough as I found this book, I am truly trying to write this out of kindness, not a misogynist hate.I found this book on someone popular s Top 10 books of 2016 so I thought I would give it a try immediately I was looking for a book that tackled the subject of domestic abuse within Christian marriage, preferably via experience and that also gave some thoughts after telling their story This was not what this book was [...]

  2. Samantha

    I very much wanted to read what Ruth Tucker had to say Unfortunately I was disappointed.Part of my disappointment springs from a few concepts that weren t integral to the book, yet were still glaring issues Most obvious among these and one I m struggling to understand why she bothered including was the racism she displayed by invoking the specter of misogyny in rap music 116, 117, 155 In one place, rap music appears alongside African mutilation rites when she s talking about female genital mutil [...]

  3. Betty

    I m having trouble deciding how I feel about this book While I didn t want to read a detailed accounting of all the abuse Tucker went through in her first marriage, I expected that most of the book would deal with that, given the title and subtitle of the book Instead, the largest part of the book consisted of the stories of other abuse survivors and discussion about male headship All topics were interesting to read, but the reason I chose to read this book was an interest in Ruth s story I knew [...]

  4. Lori

    Hmmmm What to sayI feel duped I heard the author share her story on the radio, and I was eager to read the book The title is brilliant and provocative, the cover artwork is clever and telling, but the content is none of those things The subtitle is My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse Ruth Tucker s story is hers to tell It s important The issue is that it only makes up about 10% of the book The other 90% is a disjointed rant about male headship and complimentarianism The writing is so s [...]

  5. Joy Matteson

    A gut wrenching memoir by professor and writer Ruth Tucker on domestic violence in the church Married for over 20 years to a pastor who beat her on a regular basis, using biblical words to enforce his male headship and requirements for her submission, Dr Tucker relates her own story interspersed with a little biblical hermeneutics on mutuality in marriage Truly, this is a difficult book to read, but it s also a difficult one to put down Like many first year Moody Bible Institute students, I was [...]

  6. Ruth Everhart

    This book is memoir istic, rather than being true memoir The author is an academic theologian who lived in an abusive marriage for a number of years She tells some of the story of her marriage as a springboard for discourses on various aspects of feminism and religion Because I hold similar views, I had no problem with what she covered I can see, though, how by covering so much ground, she inevitably covers some of it much too quickly It felt a bit scattered, and the thread of her personal story [...]

  7. Eve Lyn

    Can we come together as a Christian community and recognize that the doctrine of male headship has sometimes been used as a cover to perpetrate violence against women Ruth TuckerI admire Ruth Tucker s courage to open up her wound about her past abusive marriage I believe her intention of writing this book is not to write a good theory of equality in marriage between husband and wife but to help every women out there who are and might facing the same problem as hers This book open my eyes that do [...]

  8. Marie

    While I applaud the author for sharing her story of domestic violence, her theology regarding complementarianism is off base I understand that she had that theological standpoint used against her as a basis for justifying the violence against her, it doesn t make it something that complementarianism agrees with I can very well understand why her experience colors her view on the theology.While going into reading this book I knew I would disagree on her standpoint theologically, but its one of th [...]

  9. Annette

    If this volume saves even one woman from further domestic abuse, my dread in writing will have been worth it Ruth A TuckerThe above quote is the main purpose for the writing of the book Tucker shares her story of being in an abusive marriage She provides insight to a world many people in the Church do not understand or who have ambivalent feelings.Pastors, leaders in the Church, and well known Christian speakers give voice and advice, not knowing their words place the abused in harm s way.Black [...]

  10. Cyndi Beane-Henry

    In my offerings of free books to review, I am always allowed to choose those books I prefer Those books that I choose usually are books that are of subjects I enjoy reading This book was different This book chose me.From 1975 to 1990 I was in an abusive marriage Like Ms Tucker, I sought solace in the only way I could find Through writing I have kept a diary, I prefer to say journal for most of my life They sit in a neat little row on my book case, as I prefer pen and ink to the computer For year [...]

  11. Lori Wasson

    This book read like a college dissertation than it did on her story of finding hope She did weave her story into the book but it was all really disjointed I also couldn t determine which side of the issue she was on at times I have not been in this situation but many women have I m not clear what message of hope she had for other women going through this.

  12. Valerie

    Definitely not what I thought it would be A huge rant about male headship and I did not enjoy it at all.

  13. Michele Morin

    No Sanction for Domestic AbuseRuth A Tucker is a story teller.I have vivid and fond memories from my experience of reading her Dynamic Women of the Bible when it was released in 2014 As she unfurled and then analyzed the story of each Biblical woman, tiny shards of her own story would poke through the narrative fabric an abusive husband, the humiliation of his ministry gaffes and trail of deceit, an unwanted but life saving divorce All of this contributed to Ruth s sensitivity in sharing the anc [...]

  14. Cathy

    I was so interested in her story she left lots of unanswered questions Mostly preached her version of theology and backed it up based on her experience Disappointing.

  15. Jessica

    Ruth Tucker married a man she was foolishly in love with, but she quickly saw who he really was when he started becoming violent with her There were PLENTY of red flags before they got married that she overlooked and plenty in their 20 years of marriage he was fired from almost every job he ever had for things like stealing and plagarism And to top it off her husband was a pastor Tucker was educated and worked as a college professor, so why didn t she leave Her main answer was that she was legi [...]

  16. Todd Wilhelm

    Author Ruth A Tucker recounts her life of domestic abuse endured at the hands of her husband, a pastor She analyzes how Christians who hold to the complementarian viewpoint often enables abusive husbands She also uses examples from her life of how pastors so often get it wrong when it comes to counseling women in abusive marriages.This well written book should be mandatory reading in all seminaries Few can comprehend the depth of shame that still lingers And not just the shame of being married t [...]

  17. Sara Fisher

    Ruth Tucker boldly raises questions that the patristic, so called complimentarian, leaders ignore While not making a direct correlation this book is not scientific it is biographical between complimentarian teaching and abuse, her experience, and that of thousands of other women probably throughout the centuries demands that male headship believers do something about the on going problem of abuse in their midst.It is not enough to claim that your teaching isn t abusive and remain silent as wome [...]

  18. Julius McCarter

    Ruth Tucker s Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife My Story of Finding Hope after Domestic Abuse is a story of living in, and escaping from domestic violence This is a story of living in the prison of domestic violence and abuse, but it s also so much than just her personal story She begins with a call to move beyond debates about scriptural interpretation, and to allow people s stories to speak wisdom and truth into the discussion And that s exactly what this book does.Tucker tells than [...]

  19. Terri

    Ruth A Tucker very carefully tells the reader at the start of this book that is NOT to be a debate about mutual submission and equality vs male headship because very little is gained in winning or losing a debate minds do not change overall So instead Tucker s book is written as a story, her story of abuse and escape from abuse, her story of understanding and finally finding in her second marriage the beauty in a marriage bathed in mutual submission and love.Of course theology has consequences a [...]

  20. Mark

    Husbands cannot use the Bible to verbally, physically or sexually abuse their wives If a wife is being physically or verbally abused, she should leave, because it is unlikely that he is going to change This is a problem of epidemic proportions in the United States, and one can certainly see how a husband can misuse the Bible to find justification for this awful behavior Ruth Tucker married such a man who beat her up for reasons like using too much water when washing the dishes and for thinking d [...]

  21. Readnponder

    Ruth Tucker is known to many for her books on missions and church history She taught for years at the seminary level This memoir is a departure, wherein Dr Tucker talks about the domestic abuse she endured for years at the hand of her husband Often she would wear long sleeves in warm weather to cover the bruises She was conflicted between being a loyal, supportive wife and removing herself and her son to a place of safety When she tried counseling, the quick answer was be a submissive wife We l [...]

  22. Cassandra

    I recevied a complimentary copy of this book First of all my advice is if you are even suspecting that you might be in an abusive relationship you must go that is all No ifs ands or buts just pack up your kids or yourself and get out Sitting around reading a book or waiting for help is not going to cut the mustard and you can end up dead Domestic violence both mental and physical is real, life threatening and not for any human I actually found this to be written in poor taste to the fact that so [...]

  23. Kim

    Ruth Tucker s story of physical abuse at the hands of her pastor husband bravely exposes the dark secret of domestic violence in the evangelical Christian subculture For the author s courage to revisit horrific experiences and publicly share them, the book merits four stars Tucker deftly weaves in church history, shifts in theological perspectives over time, and the hermeneutical challenges of interpreting scripture on the issues of husband wife relationships and gender roles in the church Her e [...]

  24. Donna Blalock

    Disclosure I received this book for an honest review No additional compensation was provided All opinions expressed here are entirely my own.Book DescriptionRuth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband a well educated, charming preacher no less in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors Weaving together her shocking story, stories of oth [...]

  25. Julie

    The books is a bit rambling, but overall fascinating book of a woman who is teaching seminary classes, and who believes women should be treated equal to men in the church and home, and at the same time puts up with her husband s violent demands that she submit to him I am not judging her, I am just fascinated at the contrast As if her cognitive beliefs and her emotional beliefs about her own worth are in constant conflict Some of the most infuriating and unfortunately predictable parts of the bo [...]

  26. CrabbyPatty

    A powerful and often difficult to read book centering on the concept of headship , defined in Ephesians 5 22 24 Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, because a husband is head of his wife as the Christ also is head of the congregation In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, so let wives also be to their husbands in everything Ruth Tucker s former husband was a pastor, who beat and terrorized her throughout their marriage, all the while tossing out bib [...]

  27. Oak

    Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife by Ruth A Tucker is a powerful book addressing the problem of domestic abuse Tucker delivers thoughtful and intelligent points, and she skillfully dissects the ways in which people often defend abusers and condone domestic abuse Besides being an important and insightful book in general, Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife is a great resource for individuals who like to keep up with the egalitarian vs complementarian debate Tucker excellently anal [...]

  28. Vicki

    Full sympathy for all the bad things Ruth Tucker went through in her marriage Awful And equally awful when any Christian pastor or leader would recommend or suggest a woman tolerate such abuses.My 2 star rating is because the author is simultaneously tries to persuade the reader to egalitarianism as the solution that would rid us of such abuses While I understand where the author is coming from, the Bible doesn t teach either egalitarianism or macho patriarchy, but instead male godly humble serv [...]

  29. Denise DiFalco

    Ruth A Tucker s Black and White Bible Black and Blue Wife was difficult for me to read because I was in a similar position My husband was Presiding Deacon of our Church for years yet behind doors at home he was everything but christian like He was both verbally and physically abusive When I turned to the one place I thought could help me instead of was met with resentment for sharing the truth Abuse is hard enough to withstand but mix it with the politics of Church and male headship and than the [...]

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